When you’re the one trying to plan date night, and packing the lunches, and managing homework, and tutoring, and sleepovers, and the kids frustrations, and your partners frustrations, and trying to work yourself, etc etc…..it’s a LOT. This episode is all about the weight that most women carry that still goes unacknowledged in most families. Maybe inspired by Father’s Day.
TOP QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST:
The more I'm having these conversations, the more I realize that women are afraid to say it out loud because they don't want to seem like that they have a problem in their marriage or that they're disrespecting their husband.
There is such a huge, heavy thing about being in a marriage or a relationship when you have children, but we don't talk about it a lot. But when you crack open the conversation, there is a flood of people wanting to open up about it.
You have a partner, and you're supposed to do it together, but it's all weighing so much more on you. And they may appreciate you sometimes, but they don't really see it for the way it is.
The mental fatigue of motherhood is so bonkers.
Women are the gatekeepers of the memories, they're the memory makers. We often create the moments that make things special.
You are allowed to talk about this stuff and how everything is overwhelming, and you are also allowed to like your life and be happy.
Women aren't "suppose" to need help, so we need to give them permission to ask for help and take some time for themselves. We're so concerned about women's mental heath and self-care, but we need to start taking care of each other.
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Currently, the favourite after school snack in Cat’s house is Monkey Sushi. The kids devour it!!
It’s quick and easy to make, it’s healthy, and it’s filling, so it’s the perfect thing to munch on before heading out to do ALL THE ACTIVITIES. Check out the recipe below and give it a try yourself!
Peanut Butter (we like natural peanut butter, but you can use any kind)
Lay the tortilla out flat.
Spread an even layer of peanut butter on the tortilla, leaving a 1-inch border (give or take).
Add a full banana to the centre of the tortilla.
Sprinkle Rice Krispies all over it.
Fold in opposite sides of the tortilla; roll up burrito-style. Make sure it’s rolled nice and tight!
Cut into pinwheels, sized to your kids’ preference.
And voila! You now have the cutest little sushi bites ever.
Well that was kind of all over the place, but we think there was some pretty good stuff in this episode! Whether you're a woman, a mom or an entrepreneur, there are going to be things in here that are relatable to you, because in all honesty, each of those roles are parallel to one another.
TOP QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST:
From a business perspective, I think you can get really lost in what people tell you - in the conversations and the advice. So much of what we want to hear is what the right answer is, because it's so hard to listen to yourself and make a gut decision. But in those moments where you take a risk and you "fail," that's part of learning, growing and understanding.
Through experiences of failing, we've come to understand that if we tried it and it didn't work, we'd modify it and go back and try again. It didn't deter us, but we also didn't beat the dead horse.
The expectations are so f*cked between men and women, and husbands and wives. I really think we married the wrong generation. I feel like we're raising our kids to understand that it's not women who have one job and men who have another - you're a team. This millennial generation is the beginning of something great, because the pressures that men and women face are now going to be shared.
The mental load that men and women carry are so different. I will never get over the mental load of motherhood, and the fact that no one talks about it.
Motherhood and entrepreneurship are parallel to each other. All moms should be entrepreneurs because we are professional problem-solvers. There is no problem that's not solvable - it's just how you look at it.
There are some things we can't control, and we understand that. If it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to be.
The reason we don't see failure is because it's a stepping stone for us. Life gives you situations so that you can grow, because if you were given what you wanted right away, it might not be the right time. For us, nothing ever comes right away, we have to take baby steps and we have to do the work to get to where we want to go.
There is no "no" - if we really want it, "no" is not an option. But not only do you have to want it, you have to figure out how to go about it and how far you're willing to go for it.
Think of your reason why, but don't let your ego be the reason why.
Last night, Nat made risotto (with whatever was left in the fridge) and paired it with a pork tenderloin. It ended up tasting delish, so we wanted to share it with you here! Warning: this isn’t necessarily the easiest dinner to make, but it’s good one. The kids devoured it and were asking for more.
1 1/2 cups arborio rice
4 cups chicken stock
1/2 cup white wine
1 medium shallot (1/2 cup or 1/2 small onion, chopped)
1 cup fresh peas
1 cup diced carrots
3 tablespoons whole butter (divided)
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
1/4 cup Parmesan cheese (grated)
Kosher salt (to taste)
Black pepper (to taste)
Gather and prep the ingredients.
In a medium saucepan, heat the stock to a simmer and then reduce heat (ensuring the stock stays hot but doesn’t burn).
In a large saucepan, heat the oil and 1 tablespoon of butter over medium heat.
Once the butter has melted, add the chopped shallot (or onion). Sauté for 2 to 3 minutes or until slightly translucent.
Add rice to the pot and stir quickly until rice is fully covered in oil and butter. Sauté for another minute (give or take) until there is a bit of a nutty aroma - just make sure the rice doesn’t turn brown!!
Add the wine (aka the best part 😜) and let cook while stirring constantly until the liquid is completely absorbed.
Add a ladle of hot chicken stock to the rice and continue stirring until liquid is absorbed. When it seems like the rice is almost dry, add another ladle of stock and repeat! (Ps. Whenever you add a ladle of broth or wine to the risotto, wait until the risotto has almost completely absorbed the liquid before you add more liquid to the mix)
Continue adding stock, one ladle at a time, for about 20 to 30 minutes or until the grains are tender yet firm. Aaand KEEP STIRRING!! (yes - it’s a super tedious process, but it’s so worth it).
Stir in the two remaining tablespoons of butter, the Parmesan cheese, fresh peas, and carrots (or anything else you want to throw in there)
Add a dash of Kosher salt and black pepper
AND YOU’RE DONE (that part of the meal…)
2 tablespoons of grainy mustard
2 tablespoons of maple syrup
1 tablespoon of brown sugar
4 tablespoons of olive oil
1 garlic clove chopped
Salt and pepper
In a bowl big enough to fit the tenderloin, mix together the grainy mustard, maple syrup, brown sugar, olive oil, garlic clove, salt and pepper.
Add tenderloin to above mixture and let sit in fridge for about an hour (or less if you have no time).
Preheat oven to 375 degrees.
Cut apples into 1/8’s and add to the bottom of the roasting pan.
Drizzle olive oil, salt and pepper over apples.
Place the tenderloin in the rack and pour marinade over it.
Place in oven for approx. 35 minutes.
The pork will continue to cook for about 10 more degrees outside of the oven and will stop cooking after that. You want the meat to be slightly pink but not rare. For medium rare, remove the tenderloin at 135 degrees F.
Once out of the oven, place on a cutting board and loosely tent with foil. To retain the juices and raise to at least the recommended US department of agriculture cooking temperature of 145 degrees F.
Slice the tenderloin, serve with delish roasted apples on the side and add apple sauce for dipping.
In this week's episode, we're talking all about women and moms being successful in business. We also share details about our new, super fun Virtual VIP event. And this is the second episode where we didn't go into the gutter! (...until the end.)
TOP QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST:
Everything we do stems from a purpose. We're not just trying to make more money. If you did it just for money, you'd burn out, get bored or move on. It wouldn't be enough.
At the same time, we can't just do what we do for free. When we take time away from our families and our children, there has to be an exchange.
At the end of the day, our mission is always the same and it came from a need that we had as moms. We didn't have that connection and that support system we needed in motherhood, so we created it for ourselves and for all of you.
Everything we do is about informing you, making you feel like you’re a part of something, and giving you permission to be the best mom you can be - whatever version that is. And being “the best mom” is not something you can attain, it's something you feel.
If you go back to every single thing we've done, everything we've offered you guys, it has always been something that we felt we needed or wanted.
There was a time when a man told us not to share anything but the motherhood side of this journey because if we did, we'd no longer be relatable to women. We were told that if we shared the business side, it would take us out of this sphere of motherhood, because when you see a women who is successful, apparently she can't be a mother too. When a women appears to be successful, it discredits her as a mother. But the business side is such a big part of our life, and if we're trying to be honest, then we have to share everything.
We can be silly moms on a couch and also be running a successful business, and that's okay. It’s honest to share all of that.
I hate the word authenticity, I hate the word relatable, I hate all those words because they represent something that doesn't actually exist. I'm relatable to some, but I'm unrelatable to others - that's a fact. I don't think we have to be relatable, I think we have to be us.
It's okay to ask for what you deserve and what you want. You may not get it right then and there, but it's important to put yourself out there and have a voice.
As a mom, we all do it differently, but we all feel the exact same. We all love our kids the exact same.
Before you go and judge another mother, realize she has the same fears, hopes, dreams, and love for her kids as you do for your kids.
When we started out as moms, we judged the different ways moms did things due to our own immaturity and lack of experience in motherhood. When you judge, it also comes from an internal insecurity because you want to believe you're doing the best for your kid. You want to believe that if a women is doing it totally different than you, she must be doing it wrong, because if she was doing it right, then you should be doing it too.
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These days, it’s all about simplifying the kids’ meals and reducing the stress that comes with making dinner. Last night was a “make your own pizza” kinda night at Cat’s house. It’s not fancy but it only takes about 5 minutes to prepare and the kids eat it right up, so it’s a total win in our books!
INGREDIENTS + DIRECTIONS:
Use Naan bread, mini Naan bread, tortilla wraps or English muffins (whichever your kids prefer) as your base
Add a layer of pizza sauce on top of the base (if you wanted to add some extra protein, you could always use a Bolognese sauce rather than pizza sauce)
Add a layer of shredded cheese on top of the sauce (cheddar, mozzarella, parmesan - whatever you have in the fridge)
Add any and all toppings you want (ie. chopped up veggies, steamed broccoli, your fav meats - pepperoni, ham, bacon or grilled chicken. Cat’s son likes pineapple, so that’s a must-have on his personalized pizza)
Pop it into the oven and leave it in there for as long as you want depending on how soft or crunchy you like it
The possibilities are endless with these custom mini pizzas. The idea is to have all of the toppings out on the table for your kids to choose from, and then they can decorate their own individual pizzas! They have fun and you barely have to do any work - it doesn’t get better than that, ya’ll!
For those of you who have been following us for a while, you’ll know that we have been touring around North America over the last year and a half, visiting over 60 cities to bring a well deserved moms night out to YOU! One of the most common pieces of feedback we’ve received about tour is hearing from ya’ll about all the places we HAVEN’T been yet. And while we’d like to say that we would be able to make it everywhere, we just don’t have enough time in the year to get everywhere we want to (hello, Mom Life). So we were brainstorming how we would be able to make it happen and came up with the idea of a Virtual VIP night!
Join us as we hang out with all of ya’ll on a Thursday night to cocktail, hear from some experts (totally not us) on topics related to women/moms, and we’ll be answering your questions LIVE through a video call. Think “webinar” but with cocktails and nothing serious about us at all.
We’ll also be doing giveaways all night long to all of those in attendance AND everyone who signs up will be walking away with a digital SWAG BAG full of exclusive discounts off some of our favourite products, a secret podcast episode just for attendees, and a chapter of our audiobook!
We want to try and make this feel as intimate as possible (did you just giggle at the word intimate too?) so limited spots available! Get your spot before they sell out!
Well for the first time...maybe ever...we didn't go off the rails this episode. We talk lots about our business and social interactions on our platforms. Social media is like a mutual relationship. We are here for you, and you are here for us. But what exactly are we here for? What is our mission? We break it all down in this podcast.
TOP QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST:
We did so many things for so long that were "schlepy" but we just said yes and we showed up. But those were the baby steps we needed to take in order to get to where we are today.
When someone refers to anything you do as "little" - they can go f*ck themselves! You don't say "How's your little job going?" or "How's that little thing you do?" That is so condescending. Don't put the word "little" in it.
A lot of people have DMed us recently and said that we're killing it, but to us "killing it" would mean something larger. We don't think we'll ever feel like we're killing it.
If you are in this industry, and you are chasing something, it is a cycle that will never end because someone will always be bigger than you. So before you go and try to chase a number, think about what you're doing with your number, and remember that those numbers are actually people.
We're not trying to please the people who we don't have, we're trying to talk to the people who are with us right now. We're talking to YOU, always to you. Of course we need to keep growing so we can keep sharing our message, that's what we need to do, but it's not our sole mission to find other people.
Everyone is chasing this number that doesn't exist. You could have 3 million followers, but they might just be following you because you wear cute pants. They aren't actually your people. Your people are the ones you need to be taking care of - they are your relationship.
A lot of these girls have been with us since the beginning, and we have gone through this journey together. We've been there for them consistently, and they can always count on us to be there for them and talk to them, and that's why the relationship is so strong. And that's why they show up for us, because we've been a part of their lives.
People are chasing a trend. If something is getting a lot of "likes" on social media, people decide they want to do the same. But you need to stop and focus on what YOU are, not what everyone else likes.
As we grow and evolve, our mission is always the same but our content is changing, and that's a good thing.
How we do it is very different than most people do it, and our life right now is so ass-backwards but so are we. But rather than apologizing and being "bad moms" for it, we're owning it and being okay with the moms we are. And it all might change next year, but right now, this is who we are.
Just because I'm away, I love my kids the same as a mom who's with her kids day in and day out. Just because I go to work every day, I love my kids the same. Just because I don't cook for them every meal, I love my kids the same. We all love our kids the same.
I'm not going to apologize for who I am. I'm a good mom. Do I make mistakes? F*ck yes. Am I perfect? F*ck no. But overall, am I doing a good job? YES!
The only way that you're going to stand out, the only way you're going to survive, is to be yourself. Because nobody in the whole world is exactly like you.
We're in transition right now, and we often don't know it until we're through it, but I can feel it. Because abnormal situations now feel normal, and that's not normal.
The reason we keep going and we keep growing is because we follow the way that we feel, which leads us to do things that are exciting and fun and brand new.
It is so hard to be confident in yourself because the world gives you mixed messages all the time. So to be fully confident in yourself, confident in your voice and in you as a person, that is really rare.
If you struggle with not knowing what you you want and not knowing who you are, continue on the journey to find out. Because even if you chip at it a little bit every year, you'll get closer.
If you always step right, step left once in a while. Just jump! What's going to happen?
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Modern Motherhood Event in NYC: https://www.facebook.com/catandnat/posts/2322975497818612
We shared Cat’s kid-approved smoothie on Insta stories last week, and a whopping 93% of you wanted us to add the recipe to our website. So, here it is!
INGREDIENTS + DIRECTIONS:
1 scoop of chocolate protein (we added the Orgain Organic Plant Based Protein Powder to our Amazon shop, but you can use whatever kind you like!)
Handful of spinach
1 cup (-ish) of vanilla unsweetened almond milk (free pour - one cup or more, depending on how thick you like it)
1 scoop of Bell Plantation PB2 Powdered Peanut Butter (a peanut butter substitute, which we also linked in our Amazon shop)
Ice (just use a small amount or else it will become a slushie 🙈)
Add all ingredients together, blend and enjoy!
Ya'll have been asking for a makeup tutorial with our fav makeup artist (Hassan), who makes us look unrecognizable while we're on tour. So, here it is! ENJOY 💄 💋
PS. We're giving away a Cat & Nat² Necklace in this video! Make sure you enter for a chance to win 😘
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This week's episode starts off with some serious chats about being relentless and fearless in business and in life (and raising kids with the same characteristics), and then it naturally moves into stories about the best night out in Chicago, no-phone policies and eye-f**king. Turning insightful conversations into sex talk, it's what we do best over here 😜
TOP QUOTES FROM THIS PODCAST:
So many people are sitting there waiting and they think that it's just going to happen or show up at their door. It's not, it won't, and if you want something, you have to go get it.
If you are someone who is sitting at an office job and you want a different job, figure out what skills you can offer somebody who doesn't know what skills you have.
Listen to the universe and do what you have to do. Sometimes it means taking a step back to take a step forward, but you have to re-align yourself and not be afraid.
There are no excuses for anybody to say they are not able to do something, because there's Google. You can learn to do anything, if you're determined to figure it out.
Just because a company or something that you really want to do says "no" to you, never just take that as a "no." Take it as a "not right now." You can change people's minds.
Don't be afraid to show your kids how you feel about things because they need to learn how to check their own feelings. They have to understand that it's okay to have big feelings, but to not take those feelings out on other people and make others feel bad in the process.
If you are feeling like you're out of control and off the rails when it comes to parenting, remember that the only thing that matters is that you're happy. If you can walk in the door with a smile, then nothing else matters to your kids.
This week's episode is all about sharing positive and consistent messages with your partner and kids in order to turn the mom guilt into pride. But of course we experience a few interruptions from flying squirrels and dick talk...
"There are 700 different ways to parent, but the one you choose will be the right one. As long as you believe it, your kids will too, because they trust you and look at you to be the leader. "
"That's why it's our job as parents to teach our kids to be okay, and to be happy, with life and the situations we're in. That's why it's our job to flip the script and squash the guilt and shame that we, as moms, carry around with us every day."
"How we describe our job and our unique situation to our kids is opening up the conversation and bringing light to how all moms do it differently. If you sit there and you beat yourself up, talk negatively about yourself and apologize for going to work, your kids will think it's a bad thing. Instead, we choose to look at our situation and think that it's amazing, and we say out loud that it's amazing, so that our kids believe the same."
Some days (okay most days), we need quick and easy dinner options that don’t require a lot of effort…because, let’s be honest, we’re basically running on zero energy by like 3pm. So when 4:30 rolls around and we’re heading back into the kitchen to whip something up, we want it to take as little time and effort to make as possible.
Our solution is something simple like tacos, which the kids LOVE. Check out Nat’s go-to dish that you can customize however you and your kids want!
2/3 cup water
1 package of taco seasoning mix
Hard taco shells or soft taco bowls…or both!
Here’s a mom hack for you: because the kids ALWAYS want more cheese, which takes for-freaking-ever to grate, just cut up small chucks and toss them into the pan with your meat and BOOM - you’ve got yourself some delish cheesy meat!
Fresh veggie toppings (shredded lettuce, diced tomatoes, peppers, onions, whatever your heart/stomach desires)
Salsa, sour cream or guac as an optional add-on or a side
Cook beef in a 10-inch nonstick skillet over medium-high heat for 5 to 7 minutes, stirring frequently until thoroughly cooked; drain.
Stir in water and taco seasoning mix; heat to boiling.
Reduce heat to medium-low; let simmer uncovered for 3 to 4 minutes, stirring occasionally until thickened.
Heat taco shells and/or bowls
Serve the ground beef in the shells or the bowls with as many or as few toppings as you’d like!