Before you say I do, do you ask the real questions—like, “How do you load the dishwasher?” This week, we’re diving into the little (but actually huge) things that shape relationships, from early childhood Sunday dinners to the ways our parents showed love. Did you grow up in a house full of energy or one where you could hear a pin drop? Were birthday gifts an event or was one gift plenty? And of course, the ultimate marriage mystery—why do husbands feel the need to reload the dishwasher after we’ve already done it?

This week, we’re diving into the 10 things every married couple needs to know about sex—because let’s be honest, no one really prepares you for this stuff. We’re breaking down our thoughts, including whether you should put your sex life on hold while you are raising your kids. Plus, we had a whole convo about why men are so horny when they’re hungover. You can barely function, but this is your priority?! Make it make sense!

Apparently, there are seven non-negotiable rules for marriage, but do they even hold up? Before diving into the official list, we’re sharing some of our very own “Cat & Nat” non-negotiables—because marriage is all about finding what works for you. Will there be any overlap? Maybe. Will we have a lot to say? Definitely. Like why we think #7 deserves to be #1 and why #5 may have gone just a little too far!